I made a post a while back about “liking” being a key to social influence. This short series will tell you how to pull that off.
My personal position is that no one should ever have to deal with this alone. If you see someone getting hate, even just telling them that they aren’t alone can make a difference. Now here’s what all you lovely folks had to say (I will build on this if need be)
Now what to do about a person sending hate on a personal blog, dear followers?
I just really think this is something we should discuss as a group because there is way too much of this going on.
Read about the study here.
A brilliant move by one company was introducing Tupperware parties. It was like a giant infomercial, but instead of a loud person with a peculiar voice its your dear neighbour, mother, friend.
People who feel comfortable, and who are generally having a good time are easier to influence than if you go in “dry”
Right but how can I use this?
By making your time scarce. If all you can offer is 5 minutes, suddenly your conversational partner will be pressured into sticking to essentials. This is especially effective if you state the scarcity of your time before they say anything.
This was shown in a study where people were asked about how confident they were that the horse they bet on would win.
The range before the bet was placed went from fairly to very certain.
However, people claimed full confidence in their horse once the ticket was in hand.
Try watching a sitcom without a laugh track. Go on.
Think of folks who wipe the windshield of your car. Why are you shouting NO NO NO DON’T DO IT BLOODY HELL STOP?
It’s hardwired, somehow, if someone does something for us, there’s an internal push to reciprocate. Basically, if you want something, give something.
Firstly, a big thank you to those of you who responded. You’ve given me a good path to follow.
Here’s what we’re going to do, I’m going to start off in different paths, and you can direct me from there. I plan on making this a lot more interactive, meaning go ahead, suggest! I’ll do the research, and dedicate the post(s) to you. Fair?
Time to call up Mycroft. Goodness he’ll be cross.
(If you send a message with a suggestion, I’ll reply when your suggestion is queued alright?)
Is there any interest for me to put more effort into this blog? I think I’ve exhausted all readily usable information I have on deception. If enough of you feel I should continue, I will bring in the wider theme of social psychology and influence. It’s up to you really, let me know ?
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